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Where do the basic problems of society come from? Certainly there are difficult challenges that have to be overcome to justly feed, clothe, and shelter the people of a nation.
However, people can be fed, clothed, and sheltered and have many pleasures available to them and still be miserable. Families still break apart. Neighbors still look at each other with suspicion. People still suffer from depression, anxiety, bitterness, and substance abuse. So, where does all this come from?
According to the Bible, the basic problem is a disruption in our relationship with God. It is the human attempt to place oneself at the center rather than submitting to God as the center of the universe and Lord of all. It is sin.
The Bible not only teaches us the solution to sin. It teaches us about sin itself. It helps us understand our fallen condition so that we can repent, that is, turn from sin and back to God and find healing and redemption through the death and resurrection of Christ.
The Bible teaches that sin is complex. It involves many factors. It does so through numerous historical accounts or stories and through numerous explanations. This month, we are going to look at one of them. It is the story of Abraham and Sarah and Hagar. It began with a plausible choice, but it ended with severe disruption of the family system. We will see in this series how sin works, how it affected this family, and how we can find deliverance from sin.
Here is a basic outline. Sin is occasioned by but not caused by anxiety, our emotional response to the basic problems of reality. In the face of anxiety, we can seek our own solution or trust God. When we seek our own solution, then we are involved in pride. The result is dissolution and disruption in our lives and relationships. The counter-measure to pride is when we see the God who sees us and find our relationship with God restored through His favor offered freely to us in Jesus Christ.
In this sermon, we will consider anxiety as the occasion for sin.
Sarah
“She had borne him no children.” How many people suffer with an inability to have children? Not everyone wants to have children, but, for those who do, they enter into marriage with a vision of what their life will be. They will get married, they will have children, they will watch them grow up, and they will see their children moving out and eventually having children of their own.
Then, things turn out differently. At first, they may think that children are just not coming right away. Then, the years go by. They visit doctors to no avail. Time passes, tears fall, and the dream fades away.
In the meantime, they watch all around them, and they see their friends. They see the births, the birthday parties, the first day of school, the awards, the sports, and on and on. They try to be happy for their friends, but each time they see the good their friend enjoys, it is like a little dagger thrust into their soul.
That’s the situation that Sarah faced. “She had borne him no children.” The years went by, and she had borne him no children.
Remember that Sarah lived in a society in which having children was even more important for a woman’s status than it is in our own. Children were not merely a good to be enjoyed, they were often essential for the economic well-being and status of the family. To lack them was a threat to the family’s existence and prosperity.
Abraham and Sarah also had more reason to be concerned. God had promised Abraham that He would bless the entire world through his seed. But no children had come. They had to wait and wait and wait and wait and wait . . . That had been more than 10 years earlier. When would the promised child come?
It’s not surprising that in light of all this that Sarah came up with a solution to resolve her anxiety over childlessness. She would use a method that was very common in her day. We have many records of just such a solution being employed in the ancient world. She would give Abraham her slave Hagar. Abraham would sleep with her, and Sarah would have a son through Hagar that would be hers.
It was a common solution for the time. It was what many people they knew no doubt had done. It made sense in some ways. But it was contrary to God’s law for marriage, and, as the rest of the passage shows, it totally disrupted the household and the relationships in it.
Abraham
Up to this point, we have only spoken about Sarah. But what about Abraham? What was his role in all of this? “Abram agreed to what Sarai said” (Gen. 16:2).
Abraham was passive. He did not try to solve the problem. He simply goes along with what Sarah suggests. We might say that he distances himself from the problem.
If you read the life of the patriarchs, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, you will see that passivity is their common response to anxiety. Abraham gives up Sarah to the King of Egypt to avoid their problems. Isaac does the same when they encounter the Philistines. Rebekah says to send Jacob to her brother, and Isaac simply goes along with it. Jacob’s wives tell him to sleep with their slaves, and he does so. He seeks solace for the death of his wife in his son Joseph and refuses to take leadership in the family. His daughter is violated, and he does nothing to redress the issue so that his sons act to do something instead. Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob were problem avoiders. That was their response to anxiety. They generally went along with whatever anyone else suggested. They distance. That is their response.
But let’s consider Abraham a little more carefully. Think of his situation. No doubt, he struggled with not having a son. However, he had watched his wife struggle even more. He knew how much she suffered. He knew how anxious it made her. He knew her tears and pain.
So, after all that time, when his wife made the suggestion, he responded by passively acquiescing. She firmly believed that this would solve the problem and relieve her anxiety. How could he refuse? Have you ever seen someone really upset? Then, they suggest something that will help them. You may not agree, but it’s hard to say, “no.” This happens all the time in our lives. Someone feels pain, and they think that something will relieve it. We don’t like their pain, and so we go along with it.
Beyond this, Abraham had no doubt seen innumerable examples of this very method for getting children. People get children from their slaves all the time, he might have reasoned. He might have seen times where this worked out with less problems.
He also knew that God had promised to make a nation of his descendants, but had He promised that Sarah would be the one who would bear the son for him? Perhaps there was another way. After all, consider the circumstances. Sarah was getting old. She may not be able to have children. Perhaps Sarah was right. That’s how Abraham might have approached the situation.
The plan was reasonable. It seemed to solve the problem. However, it was contrary to God’s law, and it brought severe disruption to the family.
What We Learn About Sin & the World’s Problems
1. Anxiety is not sin but it provides a temptation to sin. It is Sarah’s anxiety over her situation that leads her to sin. There was nothing wrong with concern over the situation. The question is, what would she do with it?
As you look throughout the Bible, consider carefully how it presents sin. You will see that it begins with anxiety over a threatening situation.
You can see this throughout Genesis. Eve saw the greatness that she could have and chose the forbidden fruit in order to solve it. After the flood, the people feared being scattered and sought to build a tower that would reach heaven. Isaac feared for his life and so lied about his relationship with his wife. Joseph’s brothers had anxiety over their relationship with their father and they let it fill them with hatred that sold their brother into slavery.
You can see this in the book of Exodus. The Pharaoh feared the threat from the Jewish people, and he enslaved them. The Israelites lacked water and food, and they complained in unbelief against God and Moses for leading them out of Egypt. Moses took too long on Mount Sinai. They had to wait and wait and wait . . . and so they built a golden calf that would lead them as their god. Anxiety provides a temptation to sin.
2. Sin is worthy of blame but also compassion. How is it that we can condemn sin and have compassion on sinners? Because there is pride in sin, but there is also anxiety in sin. Anxiety is an emotional response to the basic challenges of life that we all experience. Sinful pride is a wrong solution to the basic problems of life. However, we can have compassion on people like Sarah because they are dealing with very difficult issues, and it is hard. So, we should try to see the pride and the anxiety in sin so can properly condemn the sin and have compassion on the sinner.
3. Anxiety can lead us to want to control things in a sinful way. This manifests itself first of all in the fact that we focus on our own efforts rather than seeking God. It’s not to say we should be passive, but a righteous person approaches problems with constant dependence on God. I have often sinned in this way. I find myself working on a problem as if it all depended on me. I have often found myself well into a problem and then realized, “I should seek God for help on this.” I’m still a long way from where I should be.
What are other ways this manifests itself? How often do we seek to control others when we feel anxious about a situation? How often do we lash out at other people when we feel anxious or upset? How often have we made quick decisions that really were more designed to relieve our anxiety than being what is best? We so often want to do something that will help us feel in control. We sacrifice our own standards because we want to get on top of things. These are the sorts of temptations to sin.
The pandemic has unmasked our own sinful attempts to control things. We can do this by embracing wishful thinking that either says all this will just disappear or that if we simply embrace “science,” we can master it. We try to take control by blaming someone for this problem, whether it’s China, Donald Trump, or Bill Gates.
Conspiracy theories are simply a common human way (on all sides) of trying to make difficulties more understandable. They have a certain plausibility, but they involve jumps in our reasoning that we take because they fit our already preconceived notions. It’s interesting that immediately after this presidential election and the last election that both sides immediately claimed that the election was stolen. Both were adept in seeing the implausible jumps in reasoning that the other side made. Both were completely blind to their own. It’s a human problem. It’s rooted in our desire to be in control rather than trusting God.
4. Anxiety tempts us to sin through passivity as well as activity. It’s easy for us to see the sin of Karen. It’s not as easy to see the sin of the passive Abraham. Adam’s sin was passivity in acquiescing to his wife, and so was Abraham’s. In the face of anxiety, we can fight, but we can also flee or freeze.
So, when our anxiety is up, we should also watch out for passivity. Here the error is the reverse of the last one. In Sarah’s case, she was trying to control things that she couldn’t. In Abraham’s case, he wasn’t controlling things that he could. That was his sin. His anxiety lead him to a sinful passivity and distancing.
A friend of mine and I were talking about what happened last spring. He told me about the worship leader in his church who simply ghosted him. He just stopped communicating with him. No good-bye. No arrangements for his duties. He just ghosted him and stopped responding. This was not because the worship leader had thought clearly about how he should react. It was just an emotional reaction routed in the overwhelming nature of what was happening.
Do you find this happening to you? Do you find yourself going to silence when thing get tough? Do you find yourself abandoning your duties? Do you find yourself running to things that will enable you to escape such as food, alcohol, or sex? If so, you should consider whether you are trying to deal with the challenges of life in a sinful way. In a way, this is just as much an attempt to control the world without God. It is making your world smaller instead of trying to control the big world out there.
So, what are humans to do? They have two possibilities. They can try to be the source of their own security, or they can trust God. They can see the God who sees them. In the midst of our anxiety, God shows up and assures of His love. That’s the big picture of history. Christ sees us and comes into the world and dies for our sins and rises again. This is a foundation by which we can respond to the anxieties of life. It is a perfect solution to the anxieties of the world, not by eliminating all problems but by trusting the God who has them all in His hand. In this way, we can let go of trying to control what we can’t, control what God has put in our power, and leave the rest to the Father who loves us and has given His Son for us and so will not fail to give us all other things as well. Amen.